Opinion Openers, are probably the most known way to start a conversation. that was created by the pick-up community.
I first learned about this kind of openers while reading “The Game” by Neil Strauss, and at first it seemed almost revolutionary to me.
Until that point, I was sure there were only 2 kinds of openers (or “pick up lines”, as most men call them): direct and indirect.
Direct was approaching by telling the girl how you love her and want to be with her.
And Indirect, was asking her some stupid informational question, such as “where is the toilet?”.
Now, In reality, there is a biggest variation of openers, and opinion openers are a good example.
Being Indirect and Interesting
So unlike the boring, informational questions, which I considered as “indirect openers”, opinion openers, are indirect but also very interesting to women.
The idea of these openers is to approach a girl, and ask for her opinion on something. The best topic should be a very juicy story related to dating and relationships.
Here is an example:
“Hi girls, I need to ask you a quick question on something. My friend went on a first date with a girl yesterday. Now, the date was great and they even kissed at the end. But he didn’t pay the bill, and they actually split. Do you think he ruined his chances?”
This is a topic that every girl has an opinion, and will be very interested to share it. So the opinion opener creates a good and interesting interaction with women. In this interaction you can show what a great and interesting guy you are, and hopefully make the girl(s) like you and want to meet you again.
In order to eliminate certain questions a girl might ask herself, such as “Why is he asking me? He’s probably just trying to hit on me”, It’s recommended to add to your opener the reason why you are asking this question.
A good reason would be: “I am asking you because I need your female opinion on this”, or “you seemed like a girl who understands in dating”, etc.
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The BIG Problem With Opinion Openers
Opinion openers are actually a great way to start a conversation with a girl. It doesn’t seem needy; you don’t show too much interest in the girl; and if you choose a good topic, it will be very interesting to women.
But, the biggest problem with opinion openers is ironically because they are so successful. Since the Pick-Up community began spreading its methods, more and more men are getting exposed to this type of openers..
I have to tell you the truth, like in any other niche, most men don’t spend enough efforts and really learn how to be successful with women.
Men usually are looking for “the line”, they want to know what to say. They hardly care about body language, inner game, confidence. So the first thing they learn, is using opinion openers.
Today, more than ever, almost every girl has heard this kind of openers. So they know that men use this as a way to start a conversation with girls.
It Doesn’t Mean You Shouldn’t Use Opinion Openers
So, yes, women are used to hearing this kind of openers, and most of them will know that you are hitting on them.
However, it’s still a much better option that using the “Hey, you are pretty, can I have your phone number?”
Opinion openers still create an interesting reason for a girl to talk to you. And don’t believe what some women (or your mother) might tell you – women want to be approached.
A girl doesn’t spend 2 hour choosing what to wear, without a reason. Women go out in order to meet men. The want you to approach and they want to give their number to attractive guys. And women also want sex.
In addition, I always believe in being unique. Don’t just use openers that you read in books that millions of men have already read. Make up your own opinion opener.
That’s very easy: Choose a very juicy story, something really interesting. It’s better be related to relationships between men and women. Build a question you want to as women regarding this story. And practice telling it to women.
Because it’s your own story, it will be unique. Women haven’t heard it before, and will be glad to give you their opinion about it.